Gratefulness in the Pain


The pain is indescribable, so I won’t even try to use the right word. It isn’t just a feeling. It’s a whole experience. That experience might be short-lived. It could be an experience like mine that has lasted over nine years. Maybe for you it has been even longer.  

When you get through it; and I do mean when. Know that you are better for it. That pain that you wouldn’t wish on your worst enemy, it has transformed you into that strong and beautiful person you are today.

You are better for it.

You think things through more thoroughly; you are guided by experience.
You are more empathetic to what others might be going through; you’ve been there.
You are more patient and kind; you remember how you wish you had been treated. 
You are better for your friends and loved ones; but most importantly, you are better for you.

Sometimes it’s not about getting back to that person you used to be. Maybe it’s about stepping into that person that you were created to be.

Somehow, someday, you are able to feel grateful for it all. You will finally appreciate who you’ve become and how far you’ve come. 

That my dear, is called breakthrough.


2 responses to “Gratefulness in the Pain”

  1. Hello Joni I just read your blog post. I still have flashes of pain of that loss you always talk about. It has been almost 14 years since I lost that person when she was murdered. I know I am ready for the next step in my life. I have someone who I love very much. I have the pictures of my late girlfriend still on the wall behind my TV. I guess there is still a connection that exists today as it did when she was alive. I still love the one I lost and always will have those feelings for her. I have to work out the fact I need to put those pictures away one day. That day is not here yet.

    My new girlfriend does not know I have her pictures hanging in my front room behind my TV. I still have some time to close that door behind me. I know she will be here with me even when I put her pictures away.

    Am I lost in time still or am I still hung on someone who will never come back? This is not fair to my new relationship to have her pictures hanging up. let me know what you think Joni ? If you can.

    Thank you my friend, James


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