Have you lost someone you love?
Someone that you thought you couldn’t live without?
If the answer is yes then you, most likely, know how much more important memories are to you now.
You would also, most likely, know how it feels to have people be uncomfortable with your grief.
People don’t know what to say.
So often times, they say nothing at all.
We continue to try and be around others when we are grieving but most times, we end up feeling even more alone. You try to act like everything is okay but, in reality, you are hurting. But, it’s exhausting to hide it.
So, you isolate.
Isolation can get dangerous.

Let’s try to help our loved ones understand what grief is like for us.
Correction; they couldn’t understand what it’s like. Not unless they themselves have suffered a similar loss. And even then, it’s still not the same; as each loss is very unique, just as the one we lost was like no other person.
But still, it’s worth a try.
And if you can’t find the words, send them this:


Please, know that you can’t fix it. You can’t fix me.
Please, know that I lost a whole person. A person that was an actual part of me.
I’m grieving.
I’m hurting.
Please, know that I can’t just make it go away. I can’t just turn my feelings off.
You wouldn’t be able to either.
Please, know that even if I could just wish my pain away, I don’t know if I would.
That would feel like letting go.
That would feel like my person never existed.
They did. They do.
Please, know that they still exist to me. They are always in my thoughts and I, most definitely, still feel them in my heart.
Please know that’s why memories are so important to me. I feel like they are all I have left.
I want you to talk about them.
I want you to share memories.
I need to know that I’m not the only person who still cares about them.




3 responses to “SAY THEIR NAMES”

  1. Dear Joni,

    Isn’t so when we have lost a person who has been hugged by our love illuminates our memory in all facets – then we make a walk in the past with the beloved one, see him or her in all kind of situations – then we become aware that we have lost a treasure, hands that broke away from the present and seek comfort in memory – this a deep pain in our hearts, the pain of separation like there is a wall between yesterday and today. I know this feeling too, this pain, my dear friend Joni. However, we also have to look forward to let go so that our soul and the departed soul may find peace. However, the love in our heart continues for the beloved one.

    Sending love and happines to you

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    1. Thank you for this. You always have the most sincere thoughts and words to share. Thinking on this today my friend ❤️

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      1. Welcome, my friend 🙂
        Have a happy weekend 🙂 ❤️

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